You Are Not Allowed
- J. Chatfield
- Apr 18, 2023
- 3 min read
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We have a sense of duty to those around us to help them when they are struggling. We want so badly for them to grow past the hurt and help them understand that it is time to move on.
Where did we get that from?
I love helping others, but help is only relevant when that person is ready for it, not when we are ready for it. Let me repeat that. Just because you have grown and healed does not mean that makes the people close to you ready to grow and heal. I know you are ready for them to grow. It feels good on the other side. We want those close to us to experience the freedom that comes along with the release. We want them to evolve their mindsets and reach new heights in life because we have benefited from the journey.
You are at a point where the things that made you, no longer define you going forward. You don’t want to be trapped by negative thinking or victimhood. You have learned from facing yourself and digging into your emotions to resolve traumas. You are there, but that person that was with you in those times hard times may not be.
Every time you focus on just being in the present that person is triggered and wants to drag you back to where you have been freed from. This disrupts your peace.
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED
You are not allowed to go back. You are not allowed to be so involved with negativity that your energy is drained because it is focused on that persons problem.
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED
You are not allowed to think you "have to" talk them into a healed state.
That is not your job. Take a deep breath and keep doing what you are doing. Think about how peaceful it is in that space without the anchor of that situation. See yourself and speak to your day and go about enjoying your experience.
Sure, you love that person, but you are not allowed in their unaware space to heal and deal with themselves. They have not made the steps to invite you into their healing space, only into their hurt space. They are used to you being in that same space. The truth may be that you are not the one to help them.
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED
You are not allowed to blame yourself for their lack of awareness around their situation. They just may not be ready and need to experience a little more before they understand that they have the power to heal.
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED
I cannot tell you how to feel, but I am going to anyways. You are not allowed to feel guilty. You've done your inner work and some people will just not get to that point of peace in this lifetime.
If they are an energetic match for you then you will continue to hear the run around of their sorrows. As you continue to grow. You may not see them as much anymore. And that is a benefit for you. You are rising to meet your new tribe where positivity, progress, and support resides.
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