The Ruler That Raised Us

One thing I try to instill in my kids is that they are enough for themselves. I believe that self worth should be established when they are younger. Awards are great, but it really puts a damper on the self esteem if they aren't measuring up to others. I'm happy for other people when their kids receive honors. It's great! The honors create a measurement that is put upon them based on what others are doing around them. Being in a homeschooling environment we don't have school incentives that are designed to motivate the students to excel or help the numbers soar. After all, these measurements will fade away and then you are left with just yourself. Kids need to be taught to to be able and available to measure themselves based on themselves. We think this may be a hard lesson for our kids to learn, but it's preparing them to to be adults.

As adults some of us spend so much time looking at what others are doing. People were never made to be compared! We tell ourselves or let someone tell us that we need to be a certain way. That this thing is proper and this way is the standard. What about your own standards?

Most of us were never taught how to face measurements other than trying our best to meet them even when that measurement was never made for us. If we teach our kids how to meet the measurements of someone else then they will never realize who they are.