What Does It Take To Love You?

A Brief Gratitude for Development

Sometimes, a single question can force us to pause, take a deep breath, and confront the depths of our experiences. For me, such a question brought me face-to-face with the countless hours, emotions, and energy I had invested in getting to this point in my life. As I reflect on my journey, I’m struck by the stark contrast between the days I despised my circumstances and the deep, bittersweet fulfillment I found through observing and contributing to others.

There was a time when I found solace and purpose in serving within someone else’s vision—helping build their dreams, execute their strategies, and shape their company’s operations. I loved the process of contributing to something larger than myself, even when it didn’t fully align with my own desires. Yet, behind the curtain of productivity and service, a quiet, persistent voice asked: “Why are you giving so much of your time and energy to others while neglecting yourself?”

The truth is, I was okay with it—or so it seemed. On the outside, I wore the mask of contentment and dedication. I told myself that my work mattered, that I was making a difference, and that this was enough. But on the inside, I struggled with a gnawing sense of self-betrayal. I began to question if my contributions to others were coming at the cost of my own aspirations, happiness, and well-being.

Looking back, those moments of doubt were transformative. They were the catalyst for a profound shift in perspective. I realized that serving others’ visions wasn’t inherently wrong; in fact, it taught me invaluable lessons about collaboration, leadership, and empathy. However, it also illuminated a glaring imbalance in my life: I had neglected to serve my own vision with the same passion and commitment.

This realization didn’t come overnight. It was the result of many sleepless nights, difficult conversations with myself, and a growing awareness that I deserved to invest in my dreams. I began to redefine what fulfillment meant to me. It wasn’t about choosing between serving others and serving myself; it was about finding harmony between the two. It was about giving myself permission to prioritize my needs and ambitions without guilt.

Today, I embrace both the lessons of my past and the possibilities of my future. The days I once hated are now a testament to my resilience, and the love I found in serving others has become a cornerstone of my growth. By balancing self-care with service, I’ve discovered a deeper sense of purpose and joy.

To anyone reading this who might feel stuck in a similar cycle, I encourage you to pause and reflect. Ask yourself: Am I giving myself the same love and dedication that I offer to others? Am I aligning my actions with my values and dreams? The answers may be challenging to confront, but they hold the key to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Life is a journey of self-discovery and self-love. It’s okay to serve others, but never forget to serve yourself too. After all, your vision deserves as much care and attention as anyone else’s.

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