Perfect Is The New Choice

I like to eat a perfect pancake, with perfect choice of meat and a side of perfect eggs on a perfect day. I like my shower water just perfect. I like to sit in the perfect spot at my kid's track meet. My friends are perfect. My house is perfect. So why am I not perfect? If all of these things are perfect to you, then what stops you from seeing the perfect in yourself. Is there something that you think you lack?

Well let me ask you this question. Whose perfect are you measuring up to? Kids don’t notice things aren’t perfect until they are taught they are not. Before a bias perfect is taught, they think everything is perfect. I always tell my middle school kids that someone may look the part but you are you for a reason and they cant be you and you cant be them. It doesn’t matter how hard you try. I like definitions so let's read the definition for perfect.

Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be

What about this one? I like this one better, as I like to think this is how I feel about the word.

Highly suitable for someone or something; exactly right.

What you didn’t see in the description is highly suitable for everyone. So, you mean to tell me that perfection is in the eyes of the beholder?

We believe beauty is, so why not perfection?

Or is that the same thing?

What causes us to lose sight of our personal perfection in the pursuit of someone else's perfection?

Is it that you are board with your perfection?

Yeah I know I have a lot of questions. The questions are only here to make you think. I admire my husband. He doesn’t look at what others do and measure himself as perfect or not. It doesn’t matter what is going on or who is trying to one up him. He is fixed on what he is doing. I know there is some testosterone, chest out vibe that comes up sometimes. He hides it well.

Someone told us one time that we needed to get brand new cars because another couple had bought new cars and everything was perfect for them. My husband excused the idea and told me that chasing someone else idea of perfect can leave you angry, discouraged, resentful, and oh yeah, Broke!!! He is right I tested it.

People will have you thinking that they are perfect when they are chasing someone else’s perfect that is chasing someone else’s perfect that could really be their perfect that everyone has set the standard on. And the thing is that that person wasn’t trying to make you think that way. You attached yourself to their “seemly” perfect. That’s a lot of perfect, but is it your perfect?

There have been times when someone has told us what perfect is….Going back to the cars. We both have older cars and we would like newer one with cold blowing A/C and Bluetooth...and ….okay stay focused.

I also homeschool, so we would be told that we should put our kids in daycare so that I could get a job and we could afford new cars???????

Really is that so perfect? Because I had three kids in daycare and when I receive the bills from the car and the daycare bill I would be upset, with the $100 I'd be taking home every week. That wasn’t our perfect! Honestly, and I am speaking for me. I didn’t know what my perfection was so I looked for it everywhere else and in everywhere else. Little by little my perfection didn’t seem so perfect anymore. In looking at someone else's perfect you forget how to appreciate your perfection no matter how your imperfections seem to stack up to

others perfections. Did you get that? You only have imperfections because you look at what is seemly perfect and compare it to you. What does this cause? Oh, a whole lotta unnecessary fusions of emotions and energy that will have you acting out in unidentified ways. Identifiable to hate and ignorance but unidentifiable to love.

Love only knows the perfect in you. It knows nothing else. Love, loves whether you are happy or sad, but it loves best when you know you are perfect. Love has a way of transforming in a loving way.....growing in a loving way.....So, ask you self .....Am I perfect? Love says you already are and if you would just acknowledge your perfection then you will never see yourself as imperfect.